So, here I am , back to what I once used to love, writing, because of the pain I am going through since the past few days.
Let me tell you what this pain is, and I am hoping that telling this publicly will help me dissipate the heaviness I feel in my heart.
Almost a decade back, I was working in a different city, living with friends, making new ones,in short, quite busy with my life and the people around me. While I was at it, I managed to make a very close friend, someone I could feel a connection with, at the same time I lost another friend. This loss as I like to call it, was because of different things we wanted from our lives, and the different ways we perceived each other.
Let us call my new friend as Person AG, and the old one as Person G.
I had been a strong, independent person, at times headstrong, often righteous. I believed I had to do the right thing irrespective of how that made everyone feel, including myself. I was too proud to show my vulnerable side, and a little sadist to feel accomplished if someone responsible for the situation, showed his/her vulnerability. Yes, that was me , until a decade back. I know, you must hate me by now.
Anyway, back to the story. So, G was my first real friend ever. We became friends in our early teens, enjoyed each others company, virtually over the internet. Given the shy people that we were, we never made an attempt to go out and meet each other. It is now exactly 17 years since we first met and became friends. I felt a connection with him, and I loved him. I am sure you will agree with me when I say that you can really love people from the opposite sex without it being romantic. So, yes, when I reflect on it, it was definitely platonic. All I ever wanted was for him to be a part of my life, forever.
Like most stories go, he wanted 'us' to be something else, and I don't blame him to feel that way. I did what I had to do, because by then I had already committed myself to someone else I 'truly' loved, and ended up hurting G, bad. We parted ways.This was a decade back from now.
There was this void I felt within, something I could not express to others, and also unsure of being understood in the correct way. I kept all the pain within, carefully picking up the pieces and building a fort out of it..
I met AG ,and we became close friends. She was the only other 'Friend' who could shatter the walls and get in. It somehow felt that G was back in my life, till she moved to another city two years later.
We lost touch over the years, but somewhere she could fill the void left by G, to some extent.
Just two days back, I learnt from a common friend of AG's passing. She had suffered a stroke.
It has been exactly 52 hours since I received this news. I am struggling to accept this. I was in complete denial initially, followed by a period when my mind played a trick on me, reiterating that this is all a prank. I loved her, and I still do. It doesn't matter whether we were in touch recently, or not.Psychologically, it felt as if I have lost G, again. Yes, I still love him.
I was finding it difficult to cope with the loss. I was crying in hiding, because I didn't want my husband to feel all sad, seeing me sad. He is like this innocent, pure soul I want to protect, and I 'truly' love him. It was a battle to cope...it still is... but I know, like all losses I will be able to deal with this one too... I am trying...